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Model & Actress Tomiko Fraser Hines Shares Her 6-Year Battle with Infertility; Gives Birth to Twin Boys (pics)

You know her beauty as the first African American face to represent Maybelline–or any major cosmetics brand, for that matter. But behind the face that has graced countless ads and even racked up some film credits, Tomiko Fraser Hines also has a personal story,one that she’s sharing for the very first time in hopes of inspiring and empowering black women in ways that no age-defying, skin-enhancing, last-all-day beauty product can.

Tomiko’s story is of her personal struggle with infertility. After a successful career in modeling and acting, various advocacy roles and meeting the love of her life, Tomiko set her sights on becoming a mother. But six years ago, she was diagnosed Premature Ovarian Failure–an autoimmune disorder that is likely a family trait given that Tomiko’s sister died from Lupus and an aunt died from scleroderma, a rare autoimmune disease.

“I never thought something like this would happen to me,” Tomiko said as we spoke via telephone the other week from her Los Angeles home. (Spoiler alert: Tomiko has since delivered her two beautiful boys, Kaden James Hines and Bryce Harrison Hines, who were featured on the Ellen DeGeneres show. Check out Tomiko’s Facebook page for baby pics)
Having Premature Ovarian Failure meant that her eggs were no longer “viable” and fertility specialists said that her only option for carrying a child would be to use an egg donor. But Tomiko,was determined. She and her husband spent the next five years and a good chunk of their retirement savings on an emotional roller coaster ride trying to conceive.


“We tried everything from invitro and artificial insemination. I would produce eggs but they wouldn’t take–it was breaking us emotionally, physically and financially,” Tomiko shares. “We would take breaks.But we were exhausting our finances. We went through more money than we actually had. We cried. We despaired. I don’t think there is an emotion that I didn’t experience. Even jealousy of my girlfriends who were able to get pregnant so quick….We even considered that “it just isn’t meant to be for us” and began thinking about being a childless couple.”
Throughout her journey she remembered the shame and guilt so many women have around this. She experienced her own.
After taking some time off, Tomiko and her hubby recommitted to their passion to become parents and opened their mind to a donor egg. The egg donor process was going to cost about $20,000 including the agency fees and legal costs– so they dug further into their retirement funds. Once she opened her mind to a new way of becoming a mother, everything else seemed to fall into place, Tomiko says. They found the ideal woman who would anonymously donate her eggs. “Once the paperwork was done, it was just a matter of linking up our cycles and then combining it with my husband’s sperm.”
On January 17th, she gave birth to fraternal twin boys (check out her amazing pregnancy pics!) . “We chose to put in two eggs, just to be sure. Both took. She is the genetic donor and I am the biological mother.”
Besides for realizing her dream of becoming a mother, Tomiko says she wants to use her journey to inspire other women who may struggle with infertility.
“We have no reason to be ashamed about infertility.”
There’s an even stronger stigma to infertility in the African American community. It’s a taboo subject in a culture where we are subjected to media messages that say black women are breeders who are always having babies.  It’s an important issue that I’ve addressed before.
“I wanted to speak to the African American community because I feel like there might be an added level of shame that my husband and I were looking to dispel.”  Tomiko also noticed that there were very few African American egg donors.  That limits compatible options for infertile black women who may want a donor with similar skin tones and features. “Out of 100 donors, perhaps 2 were African American and one was brown skinned like we were looking for,”  Tomiko says.
“I want women to know that all is not lost when you receive a diagnosis of infertility. Remain powerful and informed throughout the process and surround yourself with people who support you.” she says.
Welcome to the motherhood, Tomiko. We are honored to have you. Enjoy your beautiful boys.  🙂
In motherhood,
Kimberly Seals Allers
Photo Credit:  Guy Viau Www.guyviauheadshots.com
14 Responses to “Model & Actress Tomiko Fraser Hines Shares Her 6-Year Battle with Infertility; Gives Birth to Twin Boys (pics)”
  1. Tomiko says:

    Dear Kimberly,

    Thanks so much for sharing our story with your readers. My husband and I are committed to shining a light on infertility in the African-American community and how receiving the diagnosis does not necessarily mean that people can’t reach the dream of having children.


    • AfroKito says:

      I have wanted to be an egg donor. I have given birth to five healthy children and ovulated twice a month. I was discouraged from doing so. The reason that there are few donors is that few of us know to donate and doctors tell us that there aren’t enough women who want black women’s eggs. I was told this on several occasions. I was discouraged by the clinic, their front desk, and the doctor. There is truly racism in the Infertility industry. Also, the age discrimination. 21-30 is the most common allowable age. This also creates a barrier. Most Black women who can conceive their own children are having their own children at that age range. I will continue to seek an agency that has one requirement……healthy eggs.

      • Dear AfroKito,

        I am sorry to hear about your negative experience. We are currently working with a waiting list of Intended Parents of African and Latino descent that truly need your help. Our organization, OSHUN Fertility, is the first and only fertility services agency that specializes only in helping Women and Men of African and Latino descent find their fertility options. Our Intended Parents appreciate the help of any African American, African and Latina Egg Donor or Surrogate Mother that is willing to help them in their journey to have their own baby. You may read more about the work our agency’s as there are articles about the many families that we, OSHUN Fertility, helps in ESSENCE Magazine, Black Enterprise and just this week The Huffington Post. There is no medical cost or any expense of any kind to you the Egg Donor or to the Surrogate Mother. An Egg donor willing to help is typically compensated anywhere from $3,000-$15,000 for her time and commitment to the process of being an egg donor and giving the gift of life. Please visit our website to learn more http://oshunfertility.com/media.html.
        Warm Regards
        Helen Stephens
        President, OSHUN Fertility Services
        (866) 276-8809

  2. Maris says:

    Her story is not as uncommon as people would think, and unfortunately the egg donation process frowns on African American donors. They do not want to bother as they believe no one would “bite”.

    • admin says:

      That’s interesting Maris. I agree infertility is more common than people think and that’s why I applaud Tomiko for sharing her story to let people know there are many others in the same situation. But I sure hope agencies aren’t falling for this misconception when there obviously is a critical market to be served. Thanks for commenting!!

    • AfroKito says:

      Very true Maris. I’ve wanted to donate and was turned away with it stated to me numerous times that no one wants African American eggs.

  3. Badia Strachan says:

    I want to let u know that I’m very happy and proud of you and your husband. Although we don’t say it much ,your family has followed your career and you have always motivated us to do our best. Sharing your story with the world and giving hope to other families has really inspired me on a personal level and helps keep my daughter pushing towards her dreams. I want to thank you for being so open about your issues.

  4. Infertility is an issue about which many women feel ashamed, whether African American or not, and I think it is fantastic that Tomiko is sharing her story. It helps women to know that they are not alone and should not feel embarrassed or afraid to talk about it.

  5. lilkutna says:

    thanks for sharing your journey tomiko. congrats on your boys.
    i’m really shocked that the costs drained your $. Modelling pay BIG
    and Im sure you have investments right? high return investments.

  6. V.S. says:

    So glad she shared her FULL story. It is beautiful and nothing to be ashamed of… we have not because we ask not.

  7. E says:

    Congratulations, and thank you so much for sharing your story. Far too many of us are impacted by this, and are afraid of taking the donor route. God has blessed with two beautiful miracles…enjoy your path to parenthood! 🙂

  8. Adeline says:

    I like that post. I appreciate you making it available and thanks for letting us comment on your blog.
    I will make sure to share Model & Actress Tomiko Fraser Hines Shares Her 6-Year
    Battle with Infertility; Gives Birth to Twin Boys (pics) : Kimberly Seals
    Allers’ Mocha Manual with my followers on G+

  9. Vanessa says:

    As an approaching 40 yr old woman, my GYN & I have had countless discussions about fertility for years. Now that My partner & I are ready to conceive, I’m running into many fertility challenges. I’ve been resistant to the idea of IVF & possible donor eggs but now that’s it’s a reality, the hard & important decisions are arising. Thank you for sharing your story. Hearing that there are options (financially albeit), I will continue to move forward along this path with an open mind & heart.

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