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How to Get Your Groove Back After Baby

With late-night feedings, major sleep deprivation and general stress going on, it’s hard to feel sexy or have any energy or interest in sex. Don’t worry. Here are six steps to get the hotness back into your sex life. 
 


      

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Sexual Healing
How to Get Your Groove Back After Baby

With late-night feedings, major sleep deprivation and general stress going on, it’s hard to feel sexy or have any energy or interest in sex. Don’t worry. Here are six steps to get the hotness back into your sex life.
 
  1. Schedule time for love. I know things used to be spontaneous and carefree. But these days you have to carve out time together on a regular and predictable basis. Whether once a week, every two weeks or once a month, plan to spend time without children, relaxing together. If possible, spend one night at a bed and breakfast, away from household stress, every few months.
  2. Set a bedtime. Establishing a reasonable, but firm, bedtime for your kids will leave some time for you and your husband to talk and cuddle at the end of the day. Verbal intimacy and sharing is not only rejuvenating, but often a prelude to lovemaking for women.
  3. Protect your sexuality. Regular sharing keeps you and your partner emotionally connected, whether or not it results in sexual activity that day. Sexual desire will ebb and flow. Do not feel guilty. Instead, protect a small, but special, place for sexuality to live, rather than be extinguished in the early years of parenting.
  4. Think sexy! Allow yourself time to think sexy thoughts during the day. You are more likely to reconnect with your own sexual energies, if you are not saving opportunities to be sexual until the end of the day. Make afternoon or morning dates, instead of evening ones, so you are fresh for each other, instead of worn out.
  5. Allow yourself the full range of sensuality. Warm, candlelit baths together (after little ones are asleep) may not lead to passionate sex every night, or that particular night, but having shared sensual experiences can culminate in erotic feelings and dreams that awaken you with desire. Occasional lovemaking before the kids rise, is a lovely way to start your day.
  6. Repeat the mantra: quality, not quantity. The key to balance is to remember that quality of sexual experience is now more important than quantity. Orgasms may not come as quickly as they used to. If you maintain your emotional connection, your sensual sharing, and carve out opportunities for couples’s play, you will indeed keep the hotness in the bedroom.
 

 



      


      

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