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Momprenuers
Get Inspired! You Can Fire Your Boss! Here’s How.

Sure, you’ve got plenty of reasons to stay in your nine-to-five job. Money. Health insurance. Children. Money. (did I say that already?) Mortgage. Car Notes. Private school tuition. Day care. But sometimes it’s the people who have the courage to ignore the reasons, those who are completely un-reasonable in their thinking; those are the ones that ultimately create a life worth living. You can too! 

 


      

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Momprenuers
Get Inspired! You Can Fire Your Boss! Here’s How.

Sure,
you’ve got plenty of reasons to stay in your nine-to-five job. Money.
Health insurance. Children. Money. (did I say that already?) Mortgage.
Car Notes. Private school tuition. Day care. But sometimes it’s the
people who have the courage to ignore the reasons, those who are
completely un-reasonable in their thinking; those are the ones that ultimately create a life worth living. You can too!

Perhaps
you have plenty of “good reasons” for staying in your 9 to 5 job. There
could also be a host of circumstances in your life that make you feel
that your passion should remain a side hustle while you spend the
greater part of your waking hours doing work that does not fulfill you.
And it is certainly risky to strike out on your own to build a
money-making business that supports you and the lifestyle you want for
yourself. Today, I will ask you to ignore those reasons. I will ask you
to do something completely counterintuitive, and let yourself stay in
the uncomfortable place. Today I will ask you not to focus on what you
get out of your work-a-day life, but what you Don’t get from
it. How long can you stand by and let your dreams go unfulfilled? What
daydream comes to you again and again that you keep pushing out of your
mind? What are you waiting for? Consider what’s lacking from your life
that keeps you feeling unfulfilled and limited by what others say your
worth is. Because for all the reasons why people continue in jobs they
hate, the truth is, at your job, you’ll never get paid what you’re
really worth. You will never have a life of complete fulfillment and a
lifestyle of freedom, flexibility, and creativity that can only come
from working for yourself. The life of entrepreneurship and following
your passion is a lifestyle centered on connecting, birthing and living
the bigger dream, without compromise.  It’s the difference between
designing your own life and being a slave to it. It’s the difference
between a life of ‘could of,’ ‘would of,’ and ‘should ofs’ versus a
life of true happiness. There’s little true happiness in a life within
safe walls. True happiness and genuine self esteem grow from movement
toward your life desires and dreams. Happiness comes from the continual
challenge to go beyond oneself as part of something greater than one’s
own self-interest.

Don’t
just take my word for it. Now, I’m not the kind of sister who goes
around quoting philosophical tidbits, especially from Hungarian-born
cats with names I can’t pronounce. But Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi, a
foremost professor in positive psychology says it best in his
best-selling, groundbreaking book, Flow: The Psychology of Optimal Experience, when he writes:

Contrary
to what we usually believe, the best moments in our lives are not the
passive, receptive, relaxing times—although such experiences can also
be enjoyable, if we worked hard to attain them. The best moments
usually occur when a person’s body or mind is stretched to its limits
in a voluntary effort to accomplish something difficult or worthwhile.

The idea of flow
is just like being in the zone or in the groove and is defined as a
state of intrinsic motivation, optimal fulfillment and engagement,
Csikszentmihalyi argues. In an interview with Wired magazine,
Csikszentmihalyi described flow as "being completely involved in an
activity for its own sake. The ego falls away. Time flies. Every
action, movement, and thought follows inevitably from the previous one,
like playing jazz. Your whole being is involved, and you’re using your
skills to the utmost." That feeling has been proven to lead to intense
feelings of happiness, freedom and fulfillment. Wouldn’t you like a
little of that in your life? 

You
don’t have to be a college professor, a well-read individual or
Hungarian born for that matter, to know these things. As you will see
in this book, women, just like you, from all walks of life, with all
sorts of issues, baggage, and insecurities, and coming from various
education levels and with all sorts of life circumstances—some with
children, sick parents to care for, past drug addictions, high school
drop-outs, husbands, was-bands, and even baby daddy drama have learned
this secret. They have put their lives in action, making things happen
to master their circumstances and create a passion-centered life for
themselves. You can too! 

After
all, the biggest factor for success typically has more to do with
lacking fear over having anything else. Fear is the four letter word
that keeps countless women stuck in a rut and far away from the life of
their dreams. Most of us are riddled with self-doubt and anxiety both
of which are energy-sapping emotions that don’t do anything but impede
creative forward movement. Can I really do this? Will I make any money?
Do I have what it takes to really make it happen? For many, the most
important step is regaining confidence—getting your swagger back and a
willingness to consider another perspective. Another life. We usually
don’t realize that it’s usually our circumstances, upbringing, and
cultural messaging that has made us feel this way. In reality, you have
everything you need to move forward and create anything and everything
you desire in your life. “When I learned to release the fear, and have
confidence in my self that is when a new world of possibilities opened
up for me,” says Kristin St. James, who started a public relations firm
in Richmond, Virginia that now boasts over thirty paying clients.
With nothing holding you back, you are free to fully explore what you
love to do. Discovering your passion is not necessarily a complex
psychological analysis, it’s more about discovering your strengths. Our
strengths are things that make us feel energized and alive—they give us
a sense of accomplishment.  We’re not talking about just what we’re
good at, I mean I’ve been trained to be good at financial calculations,
but that doesn’t make it my passion or something I want to spend the
rest of my life doing. On the other hand, your passion feeds your
soul—gives you a sense of fulfillment like nothing else does. If you
don’t know what your passion is or what skill you can use to launch a
successful business, pick up The Mocha Manual to Turning Your Passion
into Profit—How to Find & Grow Your Side Hustle in Any Economy for
step by step advice on finding the right fit and building your dream
business. 

mochapb_rd3.jpgExcerpted
from The Mocha Manual to Turning Your Passion into Profit—How to Find
& Grow Your Side Hustle in Any Economy (Amistad/HarperCollins) by
Kimberly Seals Allers on sale everywhere January 2009.

 

 

 

 



      

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