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Kimberly’s Konfessions

(from Sept. 10, 2007)
This mommy business ain’t easy. Sometimes we do things we’d rather not share. This month I’m blogging about my secret guilty pleasures and closed door mommy antics.

Well people here’s my first confession of the month (deep breath)—A few weeks ago I dumped my kids off at my moms house for nearly a whole month!. And besides for a few weak moments, I’ve been relatively guilt free about the whole thing. That’s right I said it. It may not be the PC thing to say but this summer I experienced a guilt free vacation from my kids, and I gotta tell you I really enjoyed it. A few nights, I rode my bike. One evening, I sat on the beach and watched the sunset. Another night, I sat in a bubbly bath until my fingers were shriveled and prune-like. Now before you get all judgmental on me—let me say this, stop the hateration. You’re probably just jealous of my uninterrupted showers, quiet reading time, and the fact that I haven’t had to watch the Disney or Noggin channels in weeks. (well, I did watch High School Musical 2 just so I could talk about it with Kayla on the phone!)

Let me just say in my defense, that the dumping, er, dropping off, was for a good cause. I was completely stressed out over some company staffing issues which caused us to get way behind on processing orders (my continued apologies to my customers. We’re all good now!) Plus, I’m neck deep in writing my next book, The Mocha Manual to Turning Your Profit into Passion (btw, all you women with a side hustle out there, please email me at mailto:info@mochaanual.com to share your story and be a part of my next book!). So my lovely mother offered to take the children for the month of August as her gift to the company and the book writing effort.

Sure, I could of said, “Mom, a month is too long, a week would be great!” or I could of said “I’ve never been away from the kids that long, that may be to too much…” But instead, I said, “Hmm, let me check the flights and get to packing!!”

All you mothers out there, if you have a super-wonderful-June-Cleaver-ish-bakes-brownies- makes-hot-breakfasts-every-day-takes-the-kids-to-the-park-plans-structured-activities- and-outings-reads-every-night-kind-of-mother like I do, you know that they are getting a lot more attention and much better care with her than me peeking out at them over my laptop for hours on end while making breakfast dinners as I’m stressed out over book deadlines and writer’s block.

I’m evolved enough to say sometimes grandma is a better mom than I am. If you need a stand-in mom, grandmas are pretty much the best thing going. They have the experience and the distance to come at the stand-in mom business with a freshness and enthusiasm that we every-day moms can lack due to wear and tear.

I’ve given up being or insisting on being the only person in my kids’ life you can give them Kimberly-sized love and attention. If you have a few select friends or relatives that you respect and think their parenting style is similar to yours and your kids love spending time there, be okay with that. When I call Kayla and Michael and I hear them happy, playing around and excitedly telling me about their day, I’m happy that they are having this time. (Besides, I spent my youthful summers roasting in South Carolina at my grandma’s and if its good enough for me, then its good enough for them…)When I call and they tell me they’re too busy with an arts and craft project or a puzzle to talk to me, my heart twinges a little but I know they are enjoying themselves. And you know what, so am I.

When the time came for me to go pick them up, I couldn’t wait to see my babies. I missed them dearly. But lately I had been missing myself as well. I was lost in running a business, writing a book, managing a house, etc. My mommy vacation has helped me rediscover my balance. Now I’m ready to take on the world and the school year with renewed vigor and vim. Look out world!

Did you have a mommy break this summer? Tell me about it. C’mon, don’t be scurred. Admit to all the fun you had while your kids were away. Or tell me how your mommy guilt ruined it. Either way, I’d love to hear from you!

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