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Beyond Father’s Day: 5 Great Tips for Single Dads For the Rest of the Year

You’ve probably seen enough on Father’s Day and gift buying, so we’re also focused on beyond Father’s Day and offering single dads great tips for managing fatherhood all year round.

 Mark Peters, Founder and CEO of DressMeDaddy.com shares these five suggestions to support newly single dads as they embark on their co-parenting journey.

1.      Spend the time you have with your kids doing things!

Spend the time you have with your kids doing things. You may not be a husband anymore, but you are still a father. Be present with your kids and actively engage them. When you interact with your kids, you build a relationship. Play games, read books, cook, play sports, go fishing, do projects around the house…whatever it is, create memories finding things you have to do together. (Peters also advises creating a “no phone zone” to maximize time between dad and child).

 

2.      Don’t let your anger and frustration with your ex define and dominate the time that should be devoted to your children.

Focus on what you can control and quickly develop a mental picture of what you want it to look like in the future!  There are so many emotions associated with divorce – anger, resentment, disappointment, relief – it is easy to let them get in the way, especially in your relationship with your kids. When your kids look back on this time of their life what do you want them to say about you?  This is your time with them.  Create a memory worth remembering. The rewards will be amazing.  Make sure your kids feel safe, secure, loved and important.

 

3.  Prioritize your life!

Create a list of all of the important things in your life (including professional, financial and personal) to create balance. State everything in detail and then stick to that list. (Peters states his daughter ranked number one on his list no matter what came after).

 

4.      Stay busy! Continue doing things you enjoy!

Take up a hobby if need be: Reading, developing a new business opportunity, working out, catching up with old friends, investing, gardening, etc. are all great ways to keep yourself actively engaged.

 

5.      Talk to someone. Seek counseling if it will help improve your well- being.

 

Although many newly single dads may have spent numerous hours in therapy with their ex-wives to no avail, this may still be a great time to find a trusted counselor and figure out what you did wrong in the relationship. In order for you to improve your own life, you must figure out what internal changes you must make.

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FREE STUFF!! Our REAL. BIG. Fathead Giveaway! Win Your Life Size Wall Graphic

It’s Sports Week on MochaManual.com and in addition to great info and tips, we giving away TWO, that’s right, TWO FREE REAL. BIG FATHEADS–you know, the life-size, action-packed wall graphics that  are perfect for the sports fan in your family.  REAL.BIG. Fathead wall graphics are so much more than sports posters, kids wall decals, or home [...]

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Bad Behavior? Bad Coaches? Good Sportsmanship? 5 Things Every Sports Mom Should Know

Do you have a future Victor Cruz, LeBron James or David Beckham in your house? It’s Sports Week on MochaManual.com and we asked our resident youth sports expert, Duane Kinnon, COO of YES Inc. (Youth Education Through Sports) a New York City-based non-profit, to give us the skinny on  what every mom needs to know to make the [...]

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It’s Sports Week: How Dwyane Wade Ended Up In Our House & Our FATHEAD GIVEAWAY

This is a true story. One that I must preface by saying that I am a die-hard New York Knicks fan. But I am also a basketball fan. And as a mother who gives a little leeway for developing your own opinions (they now say that is good for children), my 9 year old son [...]

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Kim & The Kids in the City: ANNIE, THE MUSICAL. A Must-See!

I admit, I’m biased. Annie is one of my childhood favorites. When I was about eleven years old, me and my BFF attempted to organize a neighborhood production of Annie in my parents’ basement. LOL.  My BFF and I both wanted to play Annie and before our friendship imploded over the issue, we nixed the [...]

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Kimberly Visits The Katie Couric Show; Writes Apology to Gabby Douglas from Black Moms

Kimberly Seals Allers visits the set of Katie. Read the post she wrote after listening to Olympic medalist Gabrielle Douglas share her pain over the criticism she received from the black community about her hair. Also, check out Kimberly’s behind-the-scene pics. Read the post here: http://www.katiecouric.com/features/my-apology-to-gabrielle-douglas-from-african-american-moms/          

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A car accident leads to my premature birth scare & my hospital bed baby shower

When I was eight months pregnant with my second child, I was in a car accident. I was rear ended while waiting at a stop sign. I’ll never forget the moment of impact. Of course, the first thing I screamed was, “My baby!!!” I was obviously rushed to the hospital—where the doctors thought they saw [...]

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KIMBERLY & KIDS HIT THE CITY: Ready to Get Out? Check Out the New Victory Theater and Louis Armstrong Family Musical

If you’ve got cabin fever like we have had cabin fever, then you’re probably dying to get out and start exploring our city once again. If so, we have some amazing ideas for you. Number 1: The New Victory Theater Check out the line up at The New Victory Theater where the 2012-2013 season offers [...]

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Your Word Means Everything

When I was a child my parents would say, “We’ll see” when they couldn’t commit to a promise, either a “yes” or a “no.” The dreaded, “We’ll see” used to leave me feeling anxious and hopeful that it would evolve into a clear yes or no depending on what I was requesting. I didn’t place [...]

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SPROUT Organic Baby FOODS Now in easy to use Pouches

  Giving your baby the best is always important, and although nothing beats fresh and homemade, organic baby food is a healthier alternative to other brands. The already popular Sprout line of organic baby foods has upped the ante and the ease with new packagin in pouches. The eco-friendly organic dishes are easy to use and [...]

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