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When Summer Camp Turns Racist at School of The NY Times; A Powerful Lesson for Black & White Moms in Naming Racism & Moving Forward From Charlottesville

The School of The New York Times and President Trump seem to have something in common: apparently both find it really hard to name racism. The inability to call out racist behavior is a widespread problem, even at so-called liberal media institutions. Imagine of group of white kids, dancing and jumping in a mob-like circle [...]

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Why I Forgave $38,750 in Child Support: Revaluing Fathers This Father’s Day.

As we celebrate the fathers and father figures who have impacted our lives, let’s also think about championing fatherhood. Not just as a holiday to buy ties and tools, but also as an opportunity to redefine and revalue fathering as important work. Last year, I made the apparently very controversial decision to forgive $38,750 amount of my ex husband’s child support arrears. Read why below in my piece on NYTimes.com, and let me know what you think..

But too often, fathers are seen as accessory parents or bumbling second rate caretakers. On the other side, our society only defines fathers as deadbeat or not, solely by financial contribution. And we lump the unwilling to pay and the unable to pay in the same prison-bound barrel, regardless of what other meaningful contributions that father may make to the child’s welfare.

Here’s my story:

Earlier this year, I spent three hours sitting on a hard, wooden bench in the Queens County Family Court, waiting for a judge to approve my petition to forgive $38,750 in child support arrears from my ex-husband.

The judge said, “Well this is a rare one,” then asked me several times if I was aware of what I was doing and if I had received legal counsel. When I told my single mom friends, they looked at me as if I had committed an act of treason. “Child support is all we have!” one friend exclaimed.

Is it?

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Tears For My Black Boy: A Very Public Breakdown and a Message on Mothering While Black

Last week, while standing on a stage and giving a presentation at a national conference, I broke down crying. I never saw it coming. I was talking, as I often do, about the historical trauma of black women as mothers and breastfeeders–sharing how enslaved black women were forced to breastfeed the children of the white [...]

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What I learned about race at Starbucks and their #RaceTogether Campaign

Good thing Starbucks pulled the plug on Race Together.  Everything I’ve learned about race at Starbucks lands in the SMH column. For example,  as a mother of two, my morning routine includes two school drop offs. My daughter’s drop off is about 30 minutes earlier than my son’s and to pass the time in between, we [...]

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Why Ferguson Has Everything to Do With Black Breastfeeding Week

The tragic events in Ferguson have exposed an inconvenient truth about which lives matter in the United States. About how stereotypes and unspoken fears lead to unsubstantiated actions with dangerous, life-ending consequences. As we learned that Michael Brown’s body laid in the street for over an hour without detectives’ attention, we saw firsthand the power of [...]

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Our Stories: Mocha and In The Military

It’s Military Appreciation Month, and to mark the occasion we’re sharing stories of some of the mocha-fabulous women featured in The Mocha Manual to Military Life and sharing some tips for military bliss.   Vernice Armour, Marine Corps. Captain Vernice Armour has seen a lot in history. She holds the distinction of being the first [...]

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Fed Up Friday: I’m Fed Up With the Natural vs. Relaxed Hair Wars

By Ella Rucker There’s a new set of mean girls in town, and their clique is #TeamNatural.  You know the women; they are the African American women who have given up relaxers, or the “creamy crack” as the chemical is now called, for the hair growing right out of their head.  Hair that’s not processed [...]

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#ONE HAUTE MAMA! Part 2- DESTINATION MATERNITY HOLIDAY 2013 FASHION PREVIEW

 

#One Haute Mama!

Part 2- Destination Maternity Presents

Holiday 2013 Fashion Preview in NYC

 

By Colleen Gwen Armstrong 

As we’re preparing for one more brutal month of heat in August, we realize before you know it, winter will be here! Our social calendars will be filled once again with invitations to holiday parties and visits with family. To make things a little easier for all the moms-to-be this winter,  Destination Maternity has an array of holiday dresses and chic comfortable looks to choose from.

On July 9, 2013, Destination Maternity presented their Holiday 2013 Fashion Preview featuring A Pea In The Pod, Jessica Simpson Maternity and Motherhood Maternity. We loved each collection and we think you will too! 

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Special thanks to Sally Fischer Public Relations and Destination Maternity for the invitation to this wonderful event in NYC!

Colleen Gwen Armstrong is a Fashion/Entertainment Publicist based in Brooklyn New York. While spotting the next fashion trends and working with designers for Fashion Week Brooklyn (formerly known as BK Fashion Weekend), Colleen will be the resident Fashion Blogger for the Mocha Manual #WomenWednesdays, #OneHauteMama series.

If you have a fashion topic or trend you would like us to discuss, tweet Colleen @4Publicity and  @MochaManual using the hashtags #WomenWednesdays or  #OneHauteMama. Don’t forget to like us on Facebook!

 

 

 

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One Haute Mama! Destination Maternity Presents Holiday 2013 Fashion Preview

 

One Haute Mama!

Destination Maternity Presents

Holiday 2013 Fashion Preview In NYC

 

By Colleen Gwen Armstrong 

On July 9, 2013, Kimberly and I received an invitation to attend the Destination Maternity Holiday 2013 Fashion Preview featuring A Pea In The Pod, Jessica Simpson Maternity and Motherhood Maternity collections. After viewing all three collections, it’s safe to say if you’re a mom-to-be seeking a new haute look for the holidays this winter, Destination Maternity has got you covered…all of you!

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A Pea In The Pod

To nurture and pamper expecting moms the event featured beauty products by Basq Products and Mama Mio skincare to help prevent stretch marks. All products can be found at Edamame Spa. Destination Maternity premiered the new natural lactation supplement, Milky! by Tia Mowry-Hardrict and Tamera Mowry-Housley. Milky! can be found exclusively at Destination Maternity.

 Special thanks to Sally Fischer Public Relations and Destination Maternity for the invitation to this wonderful event!

 

 

 

Colleen Gwen Armstrong is a Fashion/Entertainment Publicist based in Brooklyn, New York. While spotting the next fashion trends and serving as the Media Director of  Fashion Week Brooklyn Colleen will be the resident Fashion Blogger for the Mocha Manual #WomenWednesdays, #OneHauteMama series.

If you have a fashion topic or trend you would like us to discuss, tweet Colleen @4Publicity and @MochaManual using the hashtags #WomenWednesdays or  #OneHauteMama. Don’t forget to like us on Facebook!

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Have You Ever Fought With Your Man While Naked? According to Niecy Nash it's Virtually Impossible To Do!

Have You Ever Fought With Your Man While Naked? According to Niecy Nash it’s Virtually Impossible To Do!

Have You Ever Fought With Your Man While Naked?

According to Niecy Nash it’s Virtually Impossible To Do!

When it comes to relationships, everyone has some sage advice. From 90-day rules to being unavailable, there has always been something said about what it takes to get a man and keep him.

Actress Niecey Nash, star of The Soul Man, (Wednesdays 11pm ET on TV Land) is the author of the new book, ‘It’s Hard to Fight Naked.’

Nash appears on the cover of the (July 1, 2013) JET magazine issue with these words of wisdom: “If you keep a man’s stomach full and his penis empty you won’t have a problem.”

Although you may be more diplomatic in how you say it, you cannot deny the truth in her comments. I believe Chris Rock has also said that men’s needs   are very simple: “food, sex and silence.”
 
So do women shoot themselves in the foot by trying to overcomplicate men instead of just keeping their bellies full and their penises empty? Are men insulted by this summation of their needs? I think not.
 
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