Comments on: Strong Black Woman Backlash: Are Black Women Unintentionally Contributing to the Breakdown of the Black Family? http://mochamanual.com/blog/2009/09/strong-black-woman-backlash-are-black-women-unintentionally-contributing-to-the-breakdown-of-the-black-family/ Everything for Black Moms Tue, 09 Mar 2010 16:43:38 -0800 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.6 hourly 1 By: Eddie Nicole http://mochamanual.com/blog/2009/09/strong-black-woman-backlash-are-black-women-unintentionally-contributing-to-the-breakdown-of-the-black-family/comment-page-1/#comment-736 Eddie Nicole Fri, 13 Nov 2009 17:57:10 +0000 http://mochamanual.com/blog/?p=95#comment-736 Great read. Being the child of a single mother since age 7, I never thought of her tears, trials, and tribulations because she never showed it. I would even ask her how was she doing and how is she doing it, and she would always respond with everything is just fine, "As long as we have shelter and food" you have nothing to worry about. I still resent my father though. I have to deal with that on my own terms. Great read. Being the child of a single mother since age 7, I never thought of her tears, trials, and tribulations because she never showed it. I would even ask her how was she doing and how is she doing it, and she would always respond with everything is just fine, “As long as we have shelter and food” you have nothing to worry about.
I still resent my father though. I have to deal with that on my own terms.

]]> By: Mike http://mochamanual.com/blog/2009/09/strong-black-woman-backlash-are-black-women-unintentionally-contributing-to-the-breakdown-of-the-black-family/comment-page-1/#comment-727 Mike Sat, 31 Oct 2009 21:55:24 +0000 http://mochamanual.com/blog/?p=95#comment-727 Wow! What a great post. I had to share on my blog. I hope you don't mind but everyone need to read this. Wow! What a great post. I had to share on my blog. I hope you don’t mind but everyone need to read this.

]]> By: Charlyn Green Fareed, Phd http://mochamanual.com/blog/2009/09/strong-black-woman-backlash-are-black-women-unintentionally-contributing-to-the-breakdown-of-the-black-family/comment-page-1/#comment-316 Charlyn Green Fareed, Phd Sat, 03 Oct 2009 13:55:05 +0000 http://mochamanual.com/blog/?p=95#comment-316 Greetings Kimberly and THANK YOU for such insightful comments about some of the "flip side" outcomes of living our lives as SBW! I have devoted my life and research to this very topic and examining the health and wellness impacts of being a SBW; many of the study outcomes overlap with your observations! We are in the 4th year of our study and continue to make more and more connections everyday! We have two very important upcoming events, one is a SBW Single Moms Health & Wellness Study Circle which begins in Nov. with a small group of women who will come together to share their experiences and the health and wellness impacts of being both a single Mom AND a SBW, and the changes and actions they can take individually and collectively that may improve their health and perhaps their lives. The other event is our SBW Health & Wellness Symposium which will be held in Atlanta in April of 2010. All of the details will be available on our site (will be up soon) as well as our research findings to date. Please feel free to contact me at: sbwstudy@gmail.com is you have questions or wish further info. In the meantime, let's keep the conversation going! Thanks! Charlyn Greetings Kimberly and THANK YOU for such insightful comments about some of the “flip side” outcomes of living our lives as SBW! I have devoted my life and research to this very topic and examining the health and wellness impacts of being a SBW; many of the study outcomes overlap with your observations! We are in the 4th year of our study and continue to make more and more connections everyday!

We have two very important upcoming events, one is a SBW Single Moms Health & Wellness Study Circle which begins in Nov. with a small group of women who will come together to share their experiences and the health and wellness impacts of being both a single Mom AND a SBW, and the changes and actions they can take individually and collectively that may improve their health and perhaps their lives. The other event is our SBW Health & Wellness Symposium which will be held in Atlanta in April of 2010.

All of the details will be available on our site (will be up soon) as well as our research findings to date. Please feel free to contact me at: sbwstudy@gmail.com is you have questions or wish further info.

In the meantime, let’s keep the conversation going!

Thanks!
Charlyn

]]> By: Fort Worth, Tx http://mochamanual.com/blog/2009/09/strong-black-woman-backlash-are-black-women-unintentionally-contributing-to-the-breakdown-of-the-black-family/comment-page-1/#comment-314 Fort Worth, Tx Fri, 02 Oct 2009 22:37:09 +0000 http://mochamanual.com/blog/?p=95#comment-314 I agree. I am a single mom of three. I totally agree. I agree. I am a single mom of three. I totally agree.

]]> By: Do Single Moms Create More Single Moms? | Black And Married With Kids http://mochamanual.com/blog/2009/09/strong-black-woman-backlash-are-black-women-unintentionally-contributing-to-the-breakdown-of-the-black-family/comment-page-1/#comment-313 Do Single Moms Create More Single Moms? | Black And Married With Kids Fri, 02 Oct 2009 10:35:43 +0000 http://mochamanual.com/blog/?p=95#comment-313 [...] Kimberly Seals Allers (a single mom herself) responded to a question about single moms. She recently wrote a post on it and invited me to get my readers to weigh in. She [...] [...] Kimberly Seals Allers (a single mom herself) responded to a question about single moms. She recently wrote a post on it and invited me to get my readers to weigh in. She [...]

]]> By: Denise Serbay http://mochamanual.com/blog/2009/09/strong-black-woman-backlash-are-black-women-unintentionally-contributing-to-the-breakdown-of-the-black-family/comment-page-1/#comment-311 Denise Serbay Thu, 01 Oct 2009 16:59:43 +0000 http://mochamanual.com/blog/?p=95#comment-311 How well said and brutally honest. We as Black women are already susceptible to problems like obesity, diabetes, and hypertension. To try to be "superwoman" who can do it all is damaging us not just emotionally and physically. As you said, we are not machines. And to give the impression that Black mothers don't need a man (hello how did we become mothers??) is harmful to our young men and women. If our young girls think that they can have babies with men who may walk away without consequences to themselves and their futures, they may be less selective in whom they chose as fathers of their children. And our young Black men may not feel the strong pull that any father should when it comes to being part of a family. How well said and brutally honest. We as Black women are already susceptible to problems like obesity, diabetes, and hypertension. To try to be “superwoman” who can do it all is damaging us not just emotionally and physically. As you said, we are not machines. And to give the impression that Black mothers don’t need a man (hello how did we become mothers??) is harmful to our young men and women. If our young girls think that they can have babies with men who may walk away without consequences to themselves and their futures, they may be less selective in whom they chose as fathers of their children. And our young Black men may not feel the strong pull that any father should when it comes to being part of a family.

]]> By: Lisa http://mochamanual.com/blog/2009/09/strong-black-woman-backlash-are-black-women-unintentionally-contributing-to-the-breakdown-of-the-black-family/comment-page-1/#comment-252 Lisa Wed, 23 Sep 2009 20:48:56 +0000 http://mochamanual.com/blog/?p=95#comment-252 I agree that it's time that we stop being superwomen because in the end it just hurt us and the same children we are trying to protect. It not only sends the message to our children that men are not important,it teaches our sons that fathers are irrelevant so they in return becomes that type of dad and our daughters won't learnt how to look for those qualities in a man that shows fatherhood is important. The end result is that it's a never ending cycle. Something must be done that's why I think "The Fatherhood Initiative" is so great and maybe we should start a "Motherhood Intiative" because women are also a part of the reason why men are not around. We need to change our mindsets. I agree that it’s time that we stop being superwomen because in the end it just hurt us and the same children we are trying to protect. It not only sends the message to our children that men are not important,it teaches our sons that fathers are irrelevant so they in return becomes that type of dad and our daughters won’t learnt how to look for those qualities in a man that shows fatherhood is important. The end result is that it’s a never ending cycle. Something must be done that’s why I think “The Fatherhood Initiative” is so great and maybe we should start a “Motherhood Intiative” because women are also a part of the reason why men are not around. We need to change our mindsets.

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