As we celebrate the fathers and father figures who have impacted our lives, let’s also think about championing fatherhood. Not just as a holiday to buy ties and tools, but also as an opportunity to redefine and revalue fathering as important work. Last year, I made the apparently very controversial decision to forgive $38,750 amount of my ex husband’s child support arrears. Read why below in my piece on NYTimes.com, and let me know what you think..
But too often, fathers are seen as accessory parents or bumbling second rate caretakers. On the other side, our society only defines fathers as deadbeat or not, solely by financial contribution. And we lump the unwilling to pay and the unable to pay in the same prison-bound barrel, regardless of what other meaningful contributions that father may make to the child’s welfare.
Here’s my story:
Earlier this year, I spent three hours sitting on a hard, wooden bench in the Queens County Family Court, waiting for a judge to approve my petition to forgive $38,750 in child support arrears from my ex-husband.
The judge said, “Well this is a rare one,” then asked me several times if I was aware of what I was doing and if I had received legal counsel. When I told my single mom friends, they looked at me as if I had committed an act of treason. “Child support is all we have!” one friend exclaimed.
“Poppin Bottles” Video
(No, It’s Not What You Think)
There comes a time in every new parents life where they realize their life will never be the same! Check out this hilarious Youtube video, “Poppin Bottles” and enjoy the new way to celebrate parenthood…it’s a party like no other! Trust us, you will be up all night:-)
Special thanks to Ron “R.S.” Stephenson and his cute little co-star for sending us this video!
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Have You Ever Fought With Your Man While Naked?
According to Niecy Nash it’s Virtually Impossible To Do!
When it comes to relationships, everyone has some sage advice. From 90-day rules to being unavailable, there has always been something said about what it takes to get a man and keep him.
Actress Niecey Nash, star of The Soul Man, (Wednesdays 11pm ET on TV Land) is the author of the new book, ‘It’s Hard to Fight Naked.’
Nash appears on the cover of the (July 1, 2013) JET magazine issue with these words of wisdom: “If you keep a man’s stomach full and his penis empty you won’t have a problem.”
Although you may be more diplomatic in how you say it, you cannot deny the truth in her comments. I believe Chris Rock has also said that men’s needs are very simple: “food, sex and silence.”
So do women shoot themselves in the foot by trying to overcomplicate men instead of just keeping their bellies full and their penises empty? Are men insulted by this summation of their needs? I think not.
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