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Black Moms! Turn Mother’s Day into Mother’s Week & Beyond

Tomorrow is Mother’s Day y’all, our one big day of the year where our kids paint up flower pots, pull out the construction paper, and then flower, chocolate , breakfast in bed, and brunch us into a semi-comatose state. Of course we sop it all up like a biscuit but we all know that we deserve so much more than one day of the year to celebrate us as Mothers.

But while you milk it for all its worth, please join me in two extraordinary efforts.

One, while everyone celebrates you on Mother’s Day, please take a moment or the whole week to celebrate yourself. If you’re anything like me, you spend a lot of time suffering from mommy guilt, feeling like you work too many hours, don’t spend enough time with the kids, or don’t cook enough from- scratch meals. Or you miss a game because you have to work, you can’t find any patience anywhere or whatever else trips you up. Tomorrow, just give yourself a pat on the back for doing such a great job! That’s your Mother’s Day gift to yourself.

Now, for the other people in your house. While everyone is giving you all the attention on Mother’s Day, don’t be afraid to tell them what you REALLY want for Mother’s Day –kids who clean their rooms and hubby’s who don’t leave their underpants on the floor!

I just read some great tips from Jamie Woolf and her new book, Mom-in-Chief: How Wisdom from the Workplace Can Save Your Family from Chaos. In this Working Mother magazine book, Woolf talks about taking a workplace approach to Mother’s Day and running your home.

Her first tip is simple. Tell your family what you want for a change—not just on Mother’s Day but the whole year-round. “Enjoy your gifts, sleeping in late, and the general joy that comes with receiving thanks from your family, but then take a little time to lay down the law,” says Woolf. “Explain to your family that to be the best mom you can be you need a little help from them. See if you can’t elicit a Mother’s Day promise from everyone about one thing they can improve on—maybe your son promises to make the garbage his responsibility or your daughter promises to keep a tidier room. And then use the week following Mother’s Day to turn those promises into habits,” she says. I like the way this lady thinks!

Next, take time to relax and rejuvenate. It makes you a better mom. It’s impossible to remain purposeful and creative when the relentless pressure of responsibility zaps all your energy. Everybody needs a vacation sometime, and moms are no different. Use Mother’s Day as the starting point to start a new ritual for yourself.

This Mother’s Day let go of that negative energy and reaffirm to yourself that you’re doing just fine. Use tomorrow to start new routines and to get your family on board with new responsibilities that will make your life easier for the rest of the year. And remember, doing your personal best is all we can give our children. At the end of the day, our kids are doing just fine too. If not, then, as I tell my kids, that’s why God made therapy. LOL!

Check out more great tips from the Mom-in-Chief book here!

Tomorrow, I’m asking my kids to keep their rooms tidier without my prompting, er, nagging. What are you asking for this Mother’s Day? Tell me here…

In motherhood,
Kimberly

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